Relationships can be awesome and can feel better than eating the perfect slice of ice cream cake. But it can be crappy at times, and when they get too crappy it’s time to take a stand.
Keep in mind that successful relationships aren’t just about rainbows and butterflies. A healthy partnership requires communication, respect, and plenty of good habits from both people, so these are 7 things that should not be happening in a good relationship.
1. Expecting you to change who you’ve always been
When you become involved in a committed, intimate relationship, for the most part, you accept that person for who they are. You don’t force them to change. You accept their bad habits, their diets, their hair, their hobbies, their friends; you accept everything.
2. They want to control your life
Asking where you are is okay. It usually just means a person cares.Totally understandable. But your partner should not be setting time constraints on outings with friends. He should not stop you to hang out with certain people.
3. Constantly bringing you down or yelling at you
If your partner is constantly trying to bring you down, it might be time to say goodbye. You want to make sure your partner supports you and your dreams and values. If they are finding ways to make you feel badly about yourself, it’s a sign for you to take charge.
4. They are too jealous and checking you all the time
It’s natural to feel jealousy, but when it gets to the point where it feels like they are breathing down your back, it’s not a good sign. They should not be constantly checking your calls and texts, asking you where you are, and being interrogative in other ways. All of these are a sign of psychological abuse. Don’t let anyone make you feel suffocated in your own relationship.
5. Always making you feel guilty of every situation
You partner should not be making you feel guilty about a situation in order to gain an advantage. If you are feeling guilty in your relationship and not sure why, it could be your partner.
6. They are just too abusive
Does your partner call you names or say things that they know will hurt you on purpose? It’s not a good sign. Another sign of verbal abuse is using things you have told them that they know are personal, upsetting, or fragile against you, and will make you vulnerable, in order to make you feel bad.
7. They ignore you or your opinions
Your partner should be including you in his or her life and plans. If you are being made to feel excluded and ignored, that’s a sign of psychological abuse, and incredibly unhealthy. Relationships should have healthy communication and a lack of it should not be used as a way to make a partner feel bad.