Love is a beautiful thing.
Especially hen you’re in love with the right person, but the truth is that, at times it doesn’t last long and most times you’re to blame for your relationship breakup… Yeah, you own the blame!
However, there are some little things you may be doing unknowingly that are destroying your relationship, and that is what we’re going to let you know right here on Doronize.com
1. Being too jealousy
We all have that jealousy trait in us, but when you are constantly suspecting your partner you are unknowingly killing your relationship, your lack of trust for your partner may eventually push them out. Jealousy can lead to insecurity and anger towards your partner.
2. Negative mindset
Being negative about everything or situation can cause harm to your relationship, because no one wants to be around someone with a negative mentality. Everyone want that person that have a positive attitude and mindset towards everything and can encourage or make them feel good. “Negative behaviour will dampen the passion in your relationship”, so be positive all the time.
3. Always comparing your partner with people
We all hate when we are being compared to someone else, so you should stop comparing your partner to someone else. Celebrate your partners’ uniqueness because we are all unique in our own ways. Criticising your partner’s body type all the time drains their sense of security and belonging which make them start feeling insecured.
Everything in this life takes hardwork — even relationships, so if you want your relationship to work out, you will need to invest your time and energy to nurture the growth of your relationship. Show care to your partner and appreciate one another, always keep your relationship in mind and take action everyday to grow and strengthen your relationship.
5. Becoming too dependant (Neediness/Being too Clingy)
Many guys and girls behave in very attractive ways before their relationship begins, but in the relationship they change and stop altogether. They may end up attaching themselves to their partner to the extent of distanting themselves from their friends and family. They may begin to assume that their value should be reflected from how their partner behaves, but what if they break up with you? Your own dependance is putting you at a far higher risk of being in more pain and destroying your own self esteem.
6. Controlling your partner
Controlling behaviour can appear in many shape or forms, but there is a difference between being decisive and stopping your partner from growing. One example could be a person who reacts in a large way to their partner hanging around the opposite sex. They may get so insecure that they do not like it – their partner (in attempts to stop them worrying) may stop going out altogether, or be very avoiding of ordinary/social situations.
7. Always having very high expectations
“Disappointment will always be there as long as you have high expectations.” It’s a deep trap that many people do without realising and manifests itself. Far too often, we start a new relationship with someone we like, things turn out to be really great, but then something disappoints us. We might start to create our own ideas of how much the other person should give to us. Sometimes, we end up getting mad at them without really understanding why, and this can start to cause conflict between you and your partner.
8. Being too flirty
There is without a doubt a point where someone becomes so close to others of the opposite sex that their emotional needs are being met by more than 1 person. Cheating does not have to be physical, it can come up inform of emotional connection. If there is something they are greatly uncomfortable with, are you willing to put that aside? Stop flirting around other opposite sex when your partner is already feeling insecured.
9. Being too predictable
There is a point where routine is damaging not only to your relationship, but to yourself. Being too predictable can sometimes be a result of having too much dependance, but when you are so predictable that your partner knows what you are going to say, do and act.. they may begin to take you and the relationship less seriously.
10. Selfishness and always self-centering
It is easy to believe that some people out there fall into the category of not having the ability to admit that sometimes they should be held responsible for something. A relationship takes two, meaning that you are just as responsible for where your relationship goes in the same way that your partner is. What are examples of being too selfish? An example may be something as trivial as hogging a tv all the time, but it could be anything, maybe it is sexual or being so self centred that your partner feels (and maybe rightly so) neglected and rejected.