It’s always tough every woman when she gets to know that her man is cheating.
Many ladies who are in relationship keep asking questions just to be sure they’re doing the right thing, and we’re obviously admiring that about all of them, because when you do not know and you ask questions most times you are guided properly but other times you could be led into the gutter.
Below are the things you shouldn’t do when you get to find out he’s cheating on you:
1. Don’t ever leave him or put him out
Instead of this obvious move, putting your husband out or leaving him should be your least resort. You may eventually decide to do this, but not right now ok. It’s the worst thing you can do because that’s exactly what the other woman definitely wants. Right now, you need to keep a close eye on what’s going on. It’ll be easier to do that if the two of you are still living under the same roof.
2. Condemning him publicly
Remember, if you condemn him in the public it is more or less like washing your dirty linen outside, so try as much as possible to expose his infidelity to the public. Bad character does not hide itself, do not go around wasting your valued time spreading stories to the world on how he is the worst person ever when you could invest it in doing better things. With silence you will give yourself the respect you deserve.
3. Apologize to him… WHY?!!
Love is sweet but never allow the sweetness turn you to being foolish with your actions. He has wronged you, do not let him brain wash your thoughts by saying “no I did not do that, I was just….” and then you go saying I am sorry. That’s psychology he just used on you, do not apologize for the wrong he did, not when you saw it with your own eyes.
4. Confront him without plan, evidence and purpose
Most experts agree that you should confront your man about his cheating. But you need to have a plan. Choose time and place carefully so you can discuss the affair at length without interruption. DO NOT ask your husband if he’s cheating. CHEATERS ALWAYS LIE!
5. Don’t pretend or ignore the fact that he’s cheating
Going into denial will only make matters worse. As traumatic as it is to find out that your husband has been cheating, you need to face the reality of the situation. Ignoring his infidelity gives him the go-ahead to continue his affair. Pretending it’s not happening will make him think he’s getting away with his cheating, or give him the impression that he has your silent approval.
6. Meet with the girl
Why will you want to do that. Most times this is the first step people think of, but NOOO!! You should be able to guide your worth, act the mature one and do not even make the lady realize you are aware of her existence. If the foundation of the relationship is right and you committed it to God at the beginning take it back to him as he is the only one who can solve the puzzle.